Pregnancy Is A 50/50 Shared Responsibility, Not Just Blaming The Male For "Getting" The Female Pregnant

Feminism has _demanded_ that men respect our bodies.  They should, there is no question about that.  It only works, however, if you respect your own body first.

You should have demanded that the guy use double condoms if he had to, use an effective spermicide, and perhaps you should have gotten up and put in a diaphragm for good measure.  Do you see what I mean about respecting your own body?  Take some goddamn initiative.

If the guy refuses to do that, then he is a creep.  And he is not worth your time or energy, or the oxygen that he is using up.

Demand that the guy respect you enough to use effective birth control.  If you were worried about so-called "destroying the mood," then that should have given you some clue as to what kind of creep the guy really was.  If there existed any emotional connection between you two, the mood would come back.

I am not necessarily saying never have sex before marriage.  I am saying that you need to take some goddamn initiative for yourself so that you don’t screw up your life.  If that means layering and piling on the birth control, so be it.

All throughout my middle school and high school years, there were tons of articles in Seventeen and YM magaZznes about teenage pregnancies.

All of them were admonishing the teenage boy for "getting" the girl pregnant.  There was even a cover story-headline thing quoted thusly:  "Guys who get girls pregnant."  That was the cover quote.  "Guys who get girls pregnant."  Notice how they phrased the transpiration.  They were under the impression that it is the guy that "gets" the girl pregnant.  They were indicating that the burden of responsibility falls squarely, completely, and solely on the shoulders of the male participant.

So very sorry to bring up the issue of facts, but they did never mention that the girl got herself pregnant.  What was the cause of this glaring omission?  Did the article writers truly believe that the female had no [[cooperation, input, factoring in, no say, no opinion, no choice]] no say in the matter whatsoever?  Were they honestly under the impression that the female fetus-donor had no ___ in the incident whatsoever?
 __into the equation__ whatsoever?

One magazine article even stated, "If he is man enough to have sex, then he is man enough to take care of a baby."  Erm, okay.  If that is in fact the case, then the reciprocal is also true.  If you are woman enough to have sex, then you are woman enough to think about the consequences first.  Cause and effect.

You are 50% responsible for bringing that baby into the world.  And you are sitting there acting as if you are zero percent responsible.  When you made the decision to have sex possibly with crappy birth control, you knew what the consequences were going to be.  Again, perhaps we should review basic biology.

One has to wonder what exactly the girl was doing while the guy was "getting her pregnant."  I saw in a movie once, a girl said, “What, you think I crawled up on top of my belly and got myself pregnant?"

Well, damn, snookums, it's not as if you were over in the corner reading a book.

Some females seem to get pregnant, then whine and whimper and complain, "geeeeez, why can't the guy take responsibility for his actions?"  Well, I have a question for you -- why didn't you take responsibility for your actions first?  It takes two to tango.  Not one.  Not just you, not just him.  Two.

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You fellas reading this think I'm letting you off the hook?  HELL NO.  Grab a hankie and a blankie, because I'm about to cause some pain.

What the hell did you think was going to happen?

I suppose you are going to come back with some sort of, “but I never consented to getting a fetus.”  Well, did you insert your penis into a vagina?  Yes?  Then you consented to it.  You made that decision, you took that risk willingly and happily the second you did that.

Guess what son, that's all the choice you get.  You had your big moment when you chose to deliver the sperm.  After that, the main events all take place in the woman's body.  Her body, her rules.

Perhaps we need a trip back to sixth grade sex ed class.  Believe it or not, sex can lead to pregnancy.  Yeah, new groundbreaking research.  (Turn to the person on my right.)  Did you know that sex can lead to pregnancy?  (Turn to the person on my left.)  Did you know that sex can lead to pregnancy?  Cause I did.  And apparently I am alone in this super duper multi looper top-secret Pentagon-security clearance-level knowledge.

You fellas think that’s unfair?  You think it's unfair that such a huge gigantic potentially life-changing event could take place?  That will ultimately decide the course that the rest of your life will take...    You are worried this will derail all your plans, your goals (to work a dead-end job and smoke brownies and get drunk with your equally useless buddies), ad ilk?  It will potentially decide whether or not your life will ever be the same again?  (Try to ignore all the countless other times you have heard that cliche, because there are only a very select few events that are life-altering:  having a baby, moving, and accepting a new job.  That's pretty much it.)

Ruin your credit standing, ruin your life for the next eighteen years, possibly longer than that if the kid turns out to be a good-for-nothing slacker that can't keep a job or an apartment (which is a possibility -- the kid did spring from your own loins, after all)?

You don’t want to be saddled with that responsibility?

Then don’t take the risk.

Well, sorry bro.  If you don't want to take the risk, don't want to possibly suffer the consequences, then raincoat up.  Double raincoat.  Put spermicidal agent on it.  Burn the evidence afterwards to make sure there is no chance there is any residual entity.

But when you are not the one who has to devote and invest forty weeks -- that's not nine months, it is actually closer to nine and one-half months -- of your life, of your body, of your insides, to growing a little being, then you are NOT the one who makes that decision.  Guess what -- that decision is now taken out of your hands.  Only when you grow that ability to do all that, will the decision be squarely in your hands.

Any baby daddies out there that just want to be able to be loose and f--- around and not take care of your responsibility, get the hell over it.

You fellas think that's unfair?  Well, sorry dudes, maybe you should start thinking with your big head.  You made your bed, now lie in it.  Oh, wait, you already did that part.  Okay, fast-forwarding, fast-forwarding.

So you let yourself be snookered in by some lazy cow, and now you are complaining?  Sorry, dude, you have only yourself to blame.  You screwed her, you let your horniness get in the way of clear thinking, and now you have to pay the price.  For being careless and lazy.

Unwanted Pregnancies: This Is Not feminism; This Is Excuses and Laziness

Let us discuss a very contradictory, conflicting social attitude that many, many people have.

Let us discuss societal views towards a female putting an unplanned, unwanted baby up for abandonment.  Versus a male putting an unplanned, unwanted baby up for abandonment.  We have already discussed the glaring contradiction, double standard of Adoption vs. "Deadbeat Dad."

Now let us turn our attention to the raggedy, flaccid, pathetic illogic that females employ to excuse their irresponsible behavior.

Female:  monikered "adoption."  Male:  monikered "deadbeat dad."  Notice that even in the names, there is harsh, severe judgment towards the male.  And yet there is sympathy and compassion towards the female.

So, if a guy abandons his biological child, he deserves ridicule and shame and hatred.  But if a girl abandons her biological child, she deserves sympathy n understanding?

Guess what, folks.  That is a double standard.

If a female has careless, illicit, promiscuous sex, she has the option of abandoning the product of said careless action.  She can simply drop off the baby at a hospital or fire station.  On the other hand, if a male decides to abandon his baby, the whole entire law enforcement and judiciary system comes after him.  The male has to contend with being forced to support a child that he did not want to have.

Unwanted pregnancies as either adoption or "deadbeat dad."  This is not feminism; this is excuses and laziness.

It should not be poss to manip a grown adult woman into doing anything romanticalay/sessua.

A giwn adult wmn had better ____ have control over her own goddam. Actikns and her own gd mind. A griwn adjlt has abd olenty of time to _[[[[[[ observe thr actikns of hise arou dher___ study human behaviro,,,, study the consequences of said behaviors ]____]]
An adfult woman should not have to make a mistskr herself to nnow that it is in fact a mistsje. There is not excuse for her to be that stupid.

Iff there is the case of an adukt male manipulatn a teenage fis inti hvung sx, now, that is a geuinely bad tting. An adult has in fCt garned more [[[[[ experince, undestandig. Kf humanlsychology for good and for bad
Twe jnow fir a fact that this is bad. That is why there is a concept such as staturory rp. Huma. Society knows fir a fact fhat ________

- but eaht abt the phenomne of teo teenagers getting roeg? Thats just a teenage cirl, she doesnt nec have rhe mental capavity
-- 'manipulte' well lets talk abt this.

Oh but hse is just ateeng girl. She has nit dev the paycholgical amturky tk handle complicated cngrovefs situatin such as this.

Evidnt the boy deployed some super duper super covert manipulatin strstegies n tactics to dupe the girl info getting prg, some such asininity.
(((Move the ym mag stuff to this essay here )))

Oh but hse is a poor working class altino gilr. Ok duly nired. But he is a poor wc l boy. They are the same age. They have had simialr time for neeorological function to develol.

He dis not have any more advag or learnjngoppt than she deid. He grew up in a simit neigb , has sit fsm bak grounf, har simlar schoolign
Does not have any more life experi than she.
Doe snot possess more sophietiaction than she

Did not learn any manipilation techniqies
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So why does 'society' expect the bolk kf responsi behavr fro the boy, rather than dividing respo equally btw the two? [it makes no sense for___]

A teenage gorl should be able ti easily deflect any sauch manip techniques lobbed agis t ber. They are the same age. they have had the same amt kf time for aware ness, inteliigence, crtitical thinking skills, provlem solving skills to develop.

The inly way it js poss for a teen boy to 'manipl' a tengirl is of the girl is abysmally lacking in cognitive capabilites. I.E., she is simply a dumbass.

The fact of the gilr being a dumbass us not the boys fault. The girl has the respos to make shure she herseld is intelligent. It is not the biys respkn tonmake sure the girl is acaught up to speed in life, any more han it is the girls resp_____.