A woman should be exalted and praised for bringing forth life into this world. She should not be condemned for engaging in sex, the act that made her get pregnant in the first place.
And sigh. Perhaps this viewpoint can be extended even towards a woman that has a baby outside of marriage. Sigh. Perhaps I have been too closed-minded for too long. I guess I can be more accepting of the school of thought that says__
This took me a long time to arrive at this realization that a woman should not be [[[insulted, betrayed? nonono ostracized, social pariah, castigated]]] for giving birth to an illegitimate child.
** mention 7th heaven in major spring 2000 essay.
the inspiration for this [[_light of day,, nono groundbreaking inspiration, nonono mind-opening somehtewrrr__]] came from an unlikely source -- the TV show 7th heaven.
Perhaps we should not condemn the woman for being an "evil, deranged slut" that had sex outside of marriage and indeed got pregnant outside of marriage.
What is important now is that the woman raises the child right. She has to make sure it grows into a kind, caring, and intelligent, and cautious human being. She must make sure that it does not, oh we might as well just come right out and say it, she has to make sure the child does not get older and make the same mistake she does.
Perhaps that is more important than whether or not the child was conceived within marriage. Raising the child is now the main focus. That is more important than worrying about how the child came into this world.
It is even possible that this was the result of an abusive relationship. If that is the case, honestly she would have been more than perfectly justified in terminating the pregnancy. That would have been more than well within her right to do so. The fact is that she chose not to, and instead chose to keep that fetus and grow it into a child. And hopefully she will raise it into a wonderful, caring, intelligent human being.
Thereby she is being far more brave, courageous, and selfless than I honestly probably would be, were I in the same situation.
There is a girl in my English 102 class who got pregnant while unmarried at a very young age. Her child is now two or three years old. Was it a mistake to have sex that young? Maybe. Was it a mistake to have unprotected sex while not being married? Maybe.
But her child, a human being -- is not a mistake. She is a very good person, and she sounds like she is a really good mom.
It seems like she really loves her child and so therefore, she made the right decision to grow it to full term. And from what she says, it sounds like she is doing a pretty good job in raising it. She disciplines it, and feeds it healthy foods, she reads it bedtime stories and tucks it in to sleep at night. She is there for her child. She is in school to get an education, so obviously she wants to better herself. When she offers her opinion in class discussions, she seems quite intelligent. She wants to be able to provide a good life for her child and her own future. She does not come to class dressed like a hoochie mama. She conducts herself with self-respect and decorum at all times. I am getting the impression she does not dress like a hoochie, period.
Instead of dwelling and obsessing over _[[[being hung up on __]]] the fact that, "ohh nooo she had sex when she was a teenager and had an illegitimate baby," the world needs to move on. What is important now is that she raise her kid into a decent human being.
And sigh. Perhaps this viewpoint can be extended even towards a woman that has a baby outside of marriage. Sigh. Perhaps I have been too closed-minded for too long. I guess I can be more accepting of the school of thought that says__
This took me a long time to arrive at this realization that a woman should not be [[[insulted, betrayed? nonono ostracized, social pariah, castigated]]] for giving birth to an illegitimate child.
** mention 7th heaven in major spring 2000 essay.
the inspiration for this [[_light of day,, nono groundbreaking inspiration, nonono mind-opening somehtewrrr__]] came from an unlikely source -- the TV show 7th heaven.
Perhaps we should not condemn the woman for being an "evil, deranged slut" that had sex outside of marriage and indeed got pregnant outside of marriage.
What is important now is that the woman raises the child right. She has to make sure it grows into a kind, caring, and intelligent, and cautious human being. She must make sure that it does not, oh we might as well just come right out and say it, she has to make sure the child does not get older and make the same mistake she does.
Perhaps that is more important than whether or not the child was conceived within marriage. Raising the child is now the main focus. That is more important than worrying about how the child came into this world.
It is even possible that this was the result of an abusive relationship. If that is the case, honestly she would have been more than perfectly justified in terminating the pregnancy. That would have been more than well within her right to do so. The fact is that she chose not to, and instead chose to keep that fetus and grow it into a child. And hopefully she will raise it into a wonderful, caring, intelligent human being.
Thereby she is being far more brave, courageous, and selfless than I honestly probably would be, were I in the same situation.
There is a girl in my English 102 class who got pregnant while unmarried at a very young age. Her child is now two or three years old. Was it a mistake to have sex that young? Maybe. Was it a mistake to have unprotected sex while not being married? Maybe.
But her child, a human being -- is not a mistake. She is a very good person, and she sounds like she is a really good mom.
It seems like she really loves her child and so therefore, she made the right decision to grow it to full term. And from what she says, it sounds like she is doing a pretty good job in raising it. She disciplines it, and feeds it healthy foods, she reads it bedtime stories and tucks it in to sleep at night. She is there for her child. She is in school to get an education, so obviously she wants to better herself. When she offers her opinion in class discussions, she seems quite intelligent. She wants to be able to provide a good life for her child and her own future. She does not come to class dressed like a hoochie mama. She conducts herself with self-respect and decorum at all times. I am getting the impression she does not dress like a hoochie, period.
Instead of dwelling and obsessing over _[[[being hung up on __]]] the fact that, "ohh nooo she had sex when she was a teenager and had an illegitimate baby," the world needs to move on. What is important now is that she raise her kid into a decent human being.