Tuesday, May 13, 2003

Dragging Oneself Through The Mud Is Not A Mandatory Precursor

I suppose this leads into another___

Every bit as weird [[perplexing, nonplussing]]] is the trend that people seem unable to talk about a problem unless they have dragged themselves through the mud, and bruised and abused themselves with it.  They have to be a former user, abuser, and loser to be allowed to talk about a problem.

Equally as weird is the permeating opinion from a lot of people, and I do mean a lot of people, that a person is absolutely not allowed to have an opinion on a situation unless they have actually been through it themselves.  Or that a person is not allowed to pass judgment on a situation unless they have gone through it.

Case in point:  the getting pregnant as a teenager or otherwise out of wedlock.
I remember a lot of apparently stupid self-inflicting former teenage pregnancy queens that are of the opinion:  "ohh yeah well you don't know what it's like having a guy seduce you and tell you he'll take care of you if you get pregnant."  "You’ve never been in that situation where a guy is sooo hott and sexy and popular and is always following you around and bugging you for sex."

(Crickets chirping.)  Well, thank god for that.  What the hell good would actually going through that situation have done me?  You <were> in that situation and you fell for it hook, line, and sinker.

--I’m seeing in a bunch of articles on teen self-esteem and stufff....

As if somehow there is some magical new insight into the situation that might occur if someone is dumb enough to let themselves get caught in it.  As if smarter individuals didn’t already have all the facts.  As if they were not already able to formulate an intelligent, thoughtful decision.  As if anyone really needs to learn the hard way.

They act as if there is some information they alone are privileged to, which heretofore has been unbeknownst to the human race.  Mmmm, nope.  The guy is a primitive jackass jerkwad that only sees girls as sex objects, and he lied to her just so he could get a little tail, and the girl is a dumbdumb that was so desperate for a boyfriend that she did whatever the guy asked.  Am I missing anything?  Do I have everything pretty much covered?

Once in a rare while, like sometimes on the Maury Povich show, I see a guy that is not a total jackhole.  When he and the girl get pregnant, he decides to "be a man" and help raise their child.  Good for them.

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