"Women are not getting married as much nowadays as they did in the 1950s." Oh, how I wish this statement were a harbinger of good news. I wish we could infer that since women are not getting married, it must mean that women are showing good judgment in all areas of their lives and are conducting themselves wisely. Would that it were true.
Unfortunately, the sad fact is this statement can ONLY be taken at surface value. The fact that women are not getting married does not mean that their lives are magically better than if they had gotten married.
Because the only thing that they are *not* doing is getting married. However, they are not refraining from doing any of the other negative things associated with bad relationships and bad men. This does not mean that women are escaping and rescuing themselves from abusive relationships from guys that treat them like 3hi+. They still are stuck, only now it is with a boyfriend rather than a husband. Either life choice sucks.
It does not mean that women are conducting their lives any better, getting a better education, having better job prospects, obtaining better jobs. It does not mean that women are showing discretion and wisdom in their personal lives. It does not mean they are choosing their sex partners wisely. They are most likely moved in with some guy, or the guy has moved into her apartment because he can't afford rent. Some guy who sees her as not much more than a convenient sex partner; chances are he does not see her as a whole human being. It is possible that they are pregnant or already have a child together. They do not have an actual commitment of any kind.
This “women aren’t getting married” does not mean that women are refraining from having babies before they are emotionally and financially ready to have babies. They still are having babies when they are way too young and way too poor, just not within marriage.
It’s fine not to get married. I am not saying that all women should get married whether they want to or not and that's all there is to it and I don't want to hear anything else. That is not what I am saying. (I have to emphasize this because I can predict that there will be liberals that put words in my mouth and accuse me of saying random crap that I am not saying.) Hell, I'm not married and I know women who have not gotten married and are better for it.
But it is laughable that news outlets are reporting the general trend as good news-- when the whole facts are that a lot of women are still screwing up their lives in other ways without needing marriage to do so.
Unfortunately, the sad fact is this statement can ONLY be taken at surface value. The fact that women are not getting married does not mean that their lives are magically better than if they had gotten married.
Because the only thing that they are *not* doing is getting married. However, they are not refraining from doing any of the other negative things associated with bad relationships and bad men. This does not mean that women are escaping and rescuing themselves from abusive relationships from guys that treat them like 3hi+. They still are stuck, only now it is with a boyfriend rather than a husband. Either life choice sucks.
It does not mean that women are conducting their lives any better, getting a better education, having better job prospects, obtaining better jobs. It does not mean that women are showing discretion and wisdom in their personal lives. It does not mean they are choosing their sex partners wisely. They are most likely moved in with some guy, or the guy has moved into her apartment because he can't afford rent. Some guy who sees her as not much more than a convenient sex partner; chances are he does not see her as a whole human being. It is possible that they are pregnant or already have a child together. They do not have an actual commitment of any kind.
This “women aren’t getting married” does not mean that women are refraining from having babies before they are emotionally and financially ready to have babies. They still are having babies when they are way too young and way too poor, just not within marriage.
It’s fine not to get married. I am not saying that all women should get married whether they want to or not and that's all there is to it and I don't want to hear anything else. That is not what I am saying. (I have to emphasize this because I can predict that there will be liberals that put words in my mouth and accuse me of saying random crap that I am not saying.) Hell, I'm not married and I know women who have not gotten married and are better for it.
But it is laughable that news outlets are reporting the general trend as good news-- when the whole facts are that a lot of women are still screwing up their lives in other ways without needing marriage to do so.
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