For a time I could not figure out whyyyy exactly a lot of these females were feeling "hurt"" because some random dude was having sxx with multiple partners. It was like, okay, so he is sleeping with several partners simultaneously... And sure, that is nasty and vile...
But why in the world would that affect you? What in the world does that have to do with you? If it upsets you that much, then break off the friendship. That's what I would do. Because I agree, I do not want to be friends with an STD-spreader. That's gross. What if I use the sink after him? I do not approve of people that have that much lack of self-respect.
You do not have to take it upon yourself personally to feel hurt. If I know a guy that is a male slut, it is not going to actually *affect* me emotionally. If I have a male acquaintance that is a slut, I simply mutter, "hhunh. He's a slut." And then I shrug and go on about my business.
I see that a lot of females feel that they are "hurt" if a guy is a slut. But -- sigh. I really do not see how this would "hurt" you if some random dude sleeps around. The only way it could "hurt" you is if you are one of the dumb sluts that he slept with.
Here is what I especially don't get about this. Why are so many females claiming they are "hurt" or offended by this? How would the vague assumption of some random guy being promiscuous affect you in any way? This is what I do not get about some females' substitution for logic. What in the world does a stranger's promiscuity have to do with you?
Why in the world would you want to bring that mess into your onw life? if some guy wants to be promiscuous, fine, let him. let him deal with syphilis and gonorrhea and chlamydia. let him deal with illegitimate births born to a pre-broken non-family.
Ohhhh... It is because you are sleeping with him. Let me guess -- you started sleeping with him before you actually got to know him as a person.
Look, here's the thing. Guys cannot "hurt" any female in a casual relationship in terms of sex unless she lets him. There is no way in this physical universe that a guy can "hurt" you unless you made a stupid careless move yourself. Again, this is all self-evident. I learned all this by simply watching other people. I didn't have to make any of these mistakes myself; I pride myself on learning from others' mistakes.
Like if I am friends with a guy for a while, let us use this as an example. We are good close friends, we hang out, we talk about life, we talk about love in the general cosmic sense, there is an emotional connection, as evidenced by the fact that we get along well and we are friends. But we are most definitely not having sex. This is a clearly-stated delineator of the relationship. We are friends -- no more, no less. Then let us suppose he reveals to me that in fact he is a "player," i.e., a slut.
I might feel a sense of disappointment. I would shake my head and look at him pityingly, the way you would look at someone that disappointed their parole officer. And I probably would end the friendship. Because, ew gross, that's a pretty major life issue not to have in common. Most importantly, since we never had sxx, I would not feel hurt.
Human beings are evolved creatures. We are not lower animals. Ergo, sxxx has enormous emotional implications, ramifications, all that stuff. This is common sense.
Sigh. All this is, is reinforcing and proving everything that I have been saying for years. It is aggravating that so many people screw up their emotional health, not to mention they cause massive social ills, because they refuse to face this truth. So many on this blue-and-green ball refuse to believe that humans are very emotionally attached to sex. A few even vehemently try to insist that this is a liability. Idiots, the lot of them. Shaking my head like the aforementioned disappointed parole officer.
But why in the world would that affect you? What in the world does that have to do with you? If it upsets you that much, then break off the friendship. That's what I would do. Because I agree, I do not want to be friends with an STD-spreader. That's gross. What if I use the sink after him? I do not approve of people that have that much lack of self-respect.
You do not have to take it upon yourself personally to feel hurt. If I know a guy that is a male slut, it is not going to actually *affect* me emotionally. If I have a male acquaintance that is a slut, I simply mutter, "hhunh. He's a slut." And then I shrug and go on about my business.
I see that a lot of females feel that they are "hurt" if a guy is a slut. But -- sigh. I really do not see how this would "hurt" you if some random dude sleeps around. The only way it could "hurt" you is if you are one of the dumb sluts that he slept with.
Here is what I especially don't get about this. Why are so many females claiming they are "hurt" or offended by this? How would the vague assumption of some random guy being promiscuous affect you in any way? This is what I do not get about some females' substitution for logic. What in the world does a stranger's promiscuity have to do with you?
Why in the world would you want to bring that mess into your onw life? if some guy wants to be promiscuous, fine, let him. let him deal with syphilis and gonorrhea and chlamydia. let him deal with illegitimate births born to a pre-broken non-family.
Ohhhh... It is because you are sleeping with him. Let me guess -- you started sleeping with him before you actually got to know him as a person.
Look, here's the thing. Guys cannot "hurt" any female in a casual relationship in terms of sex unless she lets him. There is no way in this physical universe that a guy can "hurt" you unless you made a stupid careless move yourself. Again, this is all self-evident. I learned all this by simply watching other people. I didn't have to make any of these mistakes myself; I pride myself on learning from others' mistakes.
Like if I am friends with a guy for a while, let us use this as an example. We are good close friends, we hang out, we talk about life, we talk about love in the general cosmic sense, there is an emotional connection, as evidenced by the fact that we get along well and we are friends. But we are most definitely not having sex. This is a clearly-stated delineator of the relationship. We are friends -- no more, no less. Then let us suppose he reveals to me that in fact he is a "player," i.e., a slut.
I might feel a sense of disappointment. I would shake my head and look at him pityingly, the way you would look at someone that disappointed their parole officer. And I probably would end the friendship. Because, ew gross, that's a pretty major life issue not to have in common. Most importantly, since we never had sxx, I would not feel hurt.
Human beings are evolved creatures. We are not lower animals. Ergo, sxxx has enormous emotional implications, ramifications, all that stuff. This is common sense.
Sigh. All this is, is reinforcing and proving everything that I have been saying for years. It is aggravating that so many people screw up their emotional health, not to mention they cause massive social ills, because they refuse to face this truth. So many on this blue-and-green ball refuse to believe that humans are very emotionally attached to sex. A few even vehemently try to insist that this is a liability. Idiots, the lot of them. Shaking my head like the aforementioned disappointed parole officer.
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