you cannot have it all. this essay was inspired by a rerun of “The Cosby Show” I watched recently, or maybe was it "A Different World." Denise Huxtable was doing a class presentation on important topics facing modern society. Twenty years ago is still modern; that is barely a blink of an eye in human history.
((two disctisnt significatn but equally improtant parts.::)
1) Women can't have it all.
Men sure as hell can't. Therefore there is no compelling reason to think that women can.
does a man realllyy truly have both a carrer and a family? or does he have the career -- and his wofe has the family?
look at sociological trends over the past thirty years. modern fathers have been neglecting their families more and more. the absentee father with the rise of corporate culture, corpro work force. as evidenced here. and here. and here.
2) so called strong swomen complain that their husbands do not supprt her in her career.
let us peer at this more closely.
it turns out, that women do not much supprot their husbands either.
the wife often complains, ""ohhh you spend too much time at work," the kids hadlry ever get to see you anymore,"" ohh you don't spend any time with me."" the kids don't even know who their father is.
the woman divorces the man bc he focuses on work too muchch. she feels he is ignoring her or neglecting herr.
the owman compllains that the man prioritizes work too much.
-- men cannot have it all. So there ks no compelling reason to think that women can.
--oh so you say he is not supportive of your career.
-well, are yo supportive of his career? or do you complain, ''ooohh you're not home early enough;; ohh you work too much, oh you prioritize your work more than you do me;;; ohh you prioritize your work more than you do your family.""
let me geuss. you want him to bestow you with all the fienr things in life, all the luxuries, pleasures, and privelages, like dinner out at fancy restauarnt, frequent jewelry, travel vacations to far-off exotic locations,
it is odd that people only ever blame the man for a divorce. people never seem to think the woman should bear any of the oresponsiblity of a divorce.
--they say that especially sgtrong intelligent career women have trouble in marriage. supposedlty bc men are intimditated by stron gintelligent career owmen.
---(((or rather))) husbands are itimidated when their wives make more money than they do. [[]] men cannot handle when their wives make more money oand are more successful than the husband. oh, and you think the wife can handle it?
--it seems therefore that in many weird ways, these "strong inte career women" are every bit as gullible for stereotypes as men are.
some pop culutre exapmpes: reese witherspoon, sarah mclachlan. I am devastated to have to mention sarha mclach in this essay. I was quite disappointed to learn that she is separated from her husband and they are in the stages of an official divorce.
((two disctisnt significatn but equally improtant parts.::)
1) Women can't have it all.
Men sure as hell can't. Therefore there is no compelling reason to think that women can.
does a man realllyy truly have both a carrer and a family? or does he have the career -- and his wofe has the family?
look at sociological trends over the past thirty years. modern fathers have been neglecting their families more and more. the absentee father with the rise of corporate culture, corpro work force. as evidenced here. and here. and here.
2) so called strong swomen complain that their husbands do not supprt her in her career.
let us peer at this more closely.
it turns out, that women do not much supprot their husbands either.
the wife often complains, ""ohhh you spend too much time at work," the kids hadlry ever get to see you anymore,"" ohh you don't spend any time with me."" the kids don't even know who their father is.
the woman divorces the man bc he focuses on work too muchch. she feels he is ignoring her or neglecting herr.
the owman compllains that the man prioritizes work too much.
-- men cannot have it all. So there ks no compelling reason to think that women can.
--oh so you say he is not supportive of your career.
-well, are yo supportive of his career? or do you complain, ''ooohh you're not home early enough;; ohh you work too much, oh you prioritize your work more than you do me;;; ohh you prioritize your work more than you do your family.""
let me geuss. you want him to bestow you with all the fienr things in life, all the luxuries, pleasures, and privelages, like dinner out at fancy restauarnt, frequent jewelry, travel vacations to far-off exotic locations,
it is odd that people only ever blame the man for a divorce. people never seem to think the woman should bear any of the oresponsiblity of a divorce.
--they say that especially sgtrong intelligent career women have trouble in marriage. supposedlty bc men are intimditated by stron gintelligent career owmen.
---(((or rather))) husbands are itimidated when their wives make more money than they do. [[]] men cannot handle when their wives make more money oand are more successful than the husband. oh, and you think the wife can handle it?
--it seems therefore that in many weird ways, these "strong inte career women" are every bit as gullible for stereotypes as men are.
some pop culutre exapmpes: reese witherspoon, sarah mclachlan. I am devastated to have to mention sarha mclach in this essay. I was quite disappointed to learn that she is separated from her husband and they are in the stages of an official divorce.
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