The role of the family unit in society

society needs structure and order.  _tio stay together.  to stay functioning, _performing well,,,__  to keep [[better word for running, keep functioing optimally___]]
--women, through their roles,,as wives and mothers ie the stronghold of the family,,__ lay the groundwork for society
--women establish the ___ that the greater society will follow in the future.
--women are tasked with this role of keeping society intact and helahty and whole.  ((by keeping the family dynamic strong and _the strongest influence in the members' psychological makeup,,__.  by establishing these [[[_patterns,,, nonono___ ]]]] from the
    by normalizing__

I was not necessarily saying that socety was better off when women stayed at home.  I am simply stating that the family strcuture is crucuial to well-being of society.

It is hardwired into humans to organize into male-and-female nuclear families.  It was hard-wired into Homo neanderthalis, as well.

_the strongest influence in the members' psychological makeup,,__.  was already established during their formative years.  the choildhood uears in which a human being is
-they are molded, they are brought up, ___{{darmnit, what what is???  neurological pathways nonono.
aha!  their worldview is shaped by their experiences during their formative years as a child.  these are the most impressionable years.  the morals and values imparted to the child during this time will set the course for the rest of their life.
--set the foudnation for society.

moresos than those othsoide distant largely irrelevant "authority" forces such as govt, police, credit score, etc.

liberals females want all of the rithts and priveliges [[avialable, made possible ,, conceinved into existenc___um nonon__]]] of a civilied, healthy, ____modern-day society, {expoiund more on the mental emotional psycholog stablity and reason}} -- with none of the respsonsibiliteis.

if you have kids, then you need to freakin raise them.  __don't dump them on nannies and babysitters.  they are YOURr reossinbislibyt, they are YOUrr job to handle.  noy anyone else's.
--well, you needt to freakin raisesssee them.
women set the social normasn and standards.  woeme [[[set]]] social expectaiotns.

women, you need to teel men and children, and other women, how to act.  set the limits on what is acceptable in poilite civized society, and make clear ehat is not acceptable in society.  raise the bar/ __more importantly, raise the bar by setting an example,  yoiu need to act civilized, polite, respectable, self-respecting, and dignified first.

Marriage and family vs. working: a continuing study, or On the subject of having it all

you cannot have it all.  this essay was inspired by a rerun of “The Cosby Show” I watched recently, or maybe was it "A Different World."  Denise Huxtable was doing a class presentation on important topics facing modern society.  Twenty years ago is still modern; that is barely a blink of an eye in human history.

((two disctisnt significatn but equally improtant parts.::)
1)  Women can't have it all.
Men sure as hell can't.  Therefore there is no compelling reason to think that women can.

does a man realllyy truly have both a carrer and a family?  or does he have the career -- and his wofe has the family?
look at sociological trends over the past thirty years.  modern fathers have been neglecting their families more and more.  the absentee father with the rise of corporate culture, corpro work force.  as evidenced here.  and here.  and here.

2) so called strong swomen complain that their husbands do not supprt her in her career.
let us peer at this more closely.
it turns out, that women do not much supprot their husbands either.

the wife often complains, ""ohhh you spend too much time at work,"  the kids hadlry ever get to see you anymore,"" ohh you don't spend any time with me.""  the kids don't even know who their father is.

the woman divorces the man bc he focuses on work too muchch.  she feels he is ignoring her or neglecting herr.
the owman compllains that the man prioritizes work too much.

-- men cannot have it all.  So there ks no compelling reason to think that women can.

--oh so you say he is not supportive of your career.
-well, are yo supportive of his career?  or do you complain, ''ooohh you're not home early enough;; ohh you work too much, oh you prioritize your work more than you do me;;; ohh you prioritize your work more than you do your family.""

let me geuss.  you want him to bestow you with all the fienr things in life, all the luxuries, pleasures, and privelages, like dinner out at fancy restauarnt, frequent jewelry, travel vacations to far-off exotic locations,

it is odd that people only ever blame the man for a divorce.  people never seem to think the woman should bear any of the oresponsiblity of a divorce.
--they say that especially sgtrong intelligent career women have trouble in marriage.  supposedlty bc men are intimditated by stron gintelligent career owmen.

---(((or rather))) husbands are itimidated when their wives make more money than they do.  [[]]  men cannot handle when their wives make more money oand are more successful than the husband.  oh, and you think the wife can handle it?

--it seems therefore that in many weird ways, these "strong inte career women" are every bit as gullible for stereotypes as men are.

some pop culutre exapmpes:  reese witherspoon, sarah mclachlan.  I am devastated to have to mention sarha mclach in this essay.  I was quite disappointed to learn that she is separated from her husband and they are in the stages of an official divorce.