Thursday, May 25, 2000

The Virgins vs. Sluts Debate

I have to agree, that is pretty simple-minded and unrealistic, dividing women into either virgins or sluts categories of personal bedroom lives.  Why does there have to be a dichotomy like that?

There is an illustration accompanying the magazine article that depicts the dichotomy of the virgin and the slut.  I notice that in this helpful diagram, neither one of the subjects is wearing pants.  The "slt" representative is dressed like a prostitute, which I am not sure is entirely necessary.  If a woman is promiscuous in her private life in the bedroom, what in the world does that have to do with dressing like a psostitute/stripper out in public?  The "virgin" is sort of even less dressed, clad in what looks like only a little silken slip underdress thing.  She's not even wearing shoes.

I understand that they are trying to be helpful and socially progressive by calling attention to this unfortunate view that society has of women.  But for the love of God, can they at least be fully clothed?  The point of all this is that what these women do in their personal private lives is no one else's business, and that people should not think it is okay to label__

Then these women need to do that first.  Do not call attention to___  What women do in their own personal, private life has nothing to do with how one conducts oneself out in public.

Conducting Oneself in Public
I don't think many people are upset, wound up, or got their underwears in a bunch over the issue of promiscuity in someone's personal life.  In this modern world, there are so many social problems going on that dwarf simple promiscuity in comparison.  There are things worse than just mere mild social deviants.  There are religious fanatics, there are other violent criminals that present far more of a dire need for action than something as simple as what two people of similar age do behind closed doors.

The issue is not what people do in their personal private bedrooms in their own lives.  That is not the topic here.  The topic is the blatant wanton disregard for any social decorum whatsoever.  How one conducts oneself out in public society matters.

Do not drag your personal sex life issues into the light of the public arena.  You know why people call women either sluts or virgins?  It's because women put their personal lives on squawking public display.  If you would just keep your private life private, then no one would have any right to call you names and judge you.  You can't slap your private sex life all over pnrr magazines and then expect people not to know where on the sex-life spectrum you fall.
For Christ sake, wear some damn clothes out in public.

Also same with the music scene.  I read some article somewhere that said here was a huge difference between different women musicians.  Namely, that some women were more calm and feminine like Sarah McLachlan and her Lilith Fair colleagues, and then on the other side of the dividing line are angry types like Courtney love.  Ahm, excuse me, but why does this dichotomy have to exist?  Dolores O'Riordian of The Cranberries manages to make both types of music beautifully.  She has the more quiet introspective music, but she can also create aggressive alternative rock.

***mebbe here, put the thing about mistake,, like okk so they made a mistake in the past, but now it is time to move on.  Forgive and forget.  No reason to have this silly thing hanging over someone's head.  We get it, they had some episodes of bad judgment in the past.  They had bouts of self-mutilation such as piercings and tattoos in weird places, or cutting themselves or whatever, but it is time to move on.  Let's turn our attention to improving the future.

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