But hang on a second. Wait a minute. “Daddy issues?” This does not really make any sense, not when I take the time to really think about it. Like, they try to say that when girls go off to college a lot of them turn into huge whires.
But there are different kinds of love. All the types of love that a person feels towards their family and friends-- are not identical. Each one is approached from different perspectives, perception, and intentions.
There was brief mention about this in Psych 101. It is a psychological phenomenon and concept called "Electra." You know how men have "Oedipus" complex? Women have "Electra" complex.
At first when I heard about this, way back in Psych class, I was like, "Aha! Finally they are acknowledging that girls do not in fact have it easy. It is not that coasting, hovering through sheltered life with not a care in the world. You know how in some discussion circles, people think girls are pampered and protected; girls have it too easy because their rich daddy spoils them rotten while simultaneously treating the son like crap; girls do not know true hardship; everyone always protects them from having to face anything scary, etc. And supposedly boys have far more interesting psychology because they have been through some stuff, which has helped them grow as human beings, they are far more resilient and strong, etc."
But now we have psychologists providing proof that the aforementioned assumptions are not true. Girls do in fact have their own issues to deal with.
Surely this must have made girls stronger and smarter... Hardship taught them to take care of themselves... Obstacles taught them to be very shrewd... Surely this must have taught them that you cannot just assume someone else will take care of you... Rather than waiting to depend on someone else, you have to be self-sufficient.
Surely this must have taught them that not everyone in life is always going to like you... And also not everything in life is just going to be handed to you on a middle-class silver platter...
So instead of worrying if people like you and want you to be popular (etc.), you can focus your attention on taking care of yourself. Must provide for themselves, not naively assume that you can always rely on someone else. After all, if your own daddy and you do not even get along, how reliable could strangers out on the street possibly be?
Surely this provided them with the mental acumen to be realistic and prepare for the future...
--- Right??
But there are different kinds of love. All the types of love that a person feels towards their family and friends-- are not identical. Each one is approached from different perspectives, perception, and intentions.
There was brief mention about this in Psych 101. It is a psychological phenomenon and concept called "Electra." You know how men have "Oedipus" complex? Women have "Electra" complex.
At first when I heard about this, way back in Psych class, I was like, "Aha! Finally they are acknowledging that girls do not in fact have it easy. It is not that coasting, hovering through sheltered life with not a care in the world. You know how in some discussion circles, people think girls are pampered and protected; girls have it too easy because their rich daddy spoils them rotten while simultaneously treating the son like crap; girls do not know true hardship; everyone always protects them from having to face anything scary, etc. And supposedly boys have far more interesting psychology because they have been through some stuff, which has helped them grow as human beings, they are far more resilient and strong, etc."
But now we have psychologists providing proof that the aforementioned assumptions are not true. Girls do in fact have their own issues to deal with.
Surely this must have made girls stronger and smarter... Hardship taught them to take care of themselves... Obstacles taught them to be very shrewd... Surely this must have taught them that you cannot just assume someone else will take care of you... Rather than waiting to depend on someone else, you have to be self-sufficient.
Surely this must have taught them that not everyone in life is always going to like you... And also not everything in life is just going to be handed to you on a middle-class silver platter...
So instead of worrying if people like you and want you to be popular (etc.), you can focus your attention on taking care of yourself. Must provide for themselves, not naively assume that you can always rely on someone else. After all, if your own daddy and you do not even get along, how reliable could strangers out on the street possibly be?
Surely this provided them with the mental acumen to be realistic and prepare for the future...
--- Right??
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