Friday, February 15, 2002

Disclosing Shocking And Appalling Crap

These stupid women's mags keep revealing more and more crap that is shocking and appalling.  See, this is why I don't date.  The dating world is fraught with lies, trickery, and deceit.  Yep, men lie when dating.  But now it turns out, women lie almost as much as men do.  It appears they lie about different things.  But truly -- what difference does a trivial detail like that matter?  The fact is, everyone in the dating world just lies to everyone else.

There are a bunch of stupid, silly games that women play.  Too many women commit this weird sneaky, underhanded method of dating.  They are basically manipulative whores.  They are making a guy think that something was his idea, because the women are too dishonest to just come right out and say what they mean.  This is terrible.  Women are not being straightforward or honestly speaking their minds and voicing their concerns.

They are not discussing or addressing their concerns clearly with their "sex partner," boyfriend, whatever.

Like for example, these mags are fraught with dating stories where a female hung onto a guy.  And instead of clearly telling the guy point-blank that she was looking for marriage, she just kept trying to drive the guy crazy with desire, lust, etc.  In the vain hopes that the male would be so overcome with mad frenzy of desire, that he realized he simply could not live without her, and that he could not imagine a life or a future without her, and therefore he has no choice but to ask her to marry him.

Even worse, I think I read at least one "relationship advice" article that <advised> women NOT to mention marriage during the course of dating, ever.  Apparently this word scares guys away.

They are hoping that the guy will just fall madly in love head-over-heels for her, and that he will desire her so much that he will sweep her up and propose marriage to her.  And then she will secretly be cackling with glee, because this is what she wanted all along.  And she will have smug satisfaction that her sneaky, devious plan worked.

But, hang on a second.  If he's the kind of guy that is scared away by the mention of marriage, then why do you want to marry him?  If he hates the idea of marriage that much, then he probably would not make a good marriage partner.

Let's get one thing straight, anyone who is reading this.  I personally, ABSOLUTELY consider marriage a top priority.  I definitely want to get married.
I most certainly do consider__[[[[_____]]]]]
I'm in it for the long haul._[[____]]
This is why, if a guy asks me out on a date, like an actual date, one of the very first things I ask is, "Are you looking for marriage?"  If he sputters and stutters, that informs me that that was possibly the last thing on his mind.  I usually reply, "Okay, we can go out.  But it's not going to be a date.  We can hang out as friends always, and we will of course each pay for our own things."  It goes without saying that there is not going to be a hint of any intimacy.

I don't waste my time with the dating scene or the singles scene if I don't know for a fact that a person is not looking for marriage.  I'm not going to waste my time if I'm not going to get marriage out of it.  This attitude and approach of mine is actually very calming and relaxing.  There is absolutely no pressure, because I am completely honest from the get-go.  And in turn I fully expect a guy to be honest and straightforward with me, about what he is in a relationship for.  Is he expecting some sort of casual dating thing?  Then, no thanks, you're out.

I don't bother myself with any of that wishy-washy riffraff bs of, "ohhh I don't know if we should get married or not, something just isn't theeeerrrrrrrre, I want more passion," ad nauseum.  None of that on-again, off-again nonsense.  I consider all that inane mess to be a colossal, monumental waste of time.  I always have thought this; I have never harbored much patience for the dating scene.

Even Shania Twain said it, "I don't want you for a minute, I don't want you for a night, I'm only interested if I can have you for life."  That is as clear and succinct an expression of my intentions as I can hope for, and she even made it rhyme.

Plus, if marriage is that important to you, then why would you <not> bring up this topic of conversation?  I truly do not get this manipulative bs that women try to pull.

Aha, I see the progression.  And then apparently when it doesn't work, because the guy never wanted to get married at all or whatever, then she will start whining and bitching and crying and complaining, "oh men are such jerks, oh men are so immature and selfish, oh men don't want to make any kind of commitment," blah blah blah.

Well, let me ask you something.  Were you honest and straightforward with him?  Did you plainly state from the get-go that you were looking for marriage?  Were you honest with your intentions?

I do not understand why all these females settle for not being clear and straightforward in their dating lives.  I really do not comprehend why they would leave this major topic and important issue to luck or chance.  Actually, not quite; it's not "luck" or "chance."  What I should have written was, I cannot believe that women would be devious and manipulative whores regarding this major topic and important issue.

This is marriage/romance we're talking about here.  A lifelong commitment.  I cannot blv so many women [[[[______]]]][

Rather than trying to trick a guy into marrying you, why didn't you clearly state that you were in this for marriage in the first place?

The way I see it is, I would rather have a guy tell me from the very beginning whether he is in this for marriage or not.  If he is not, if he's just cruising and playing around, then he better tell me within five minutes of the first phone conversation.  That way I can easily identify him as a jerk, and I can dismiss him just as quickly.  The sooner I can eliminate from my life a guy that does not want to make any solid commitment, the better.  I do not want to waste my time nor energy on some guy that is not looking for the exact same mature, full commitment that I am looking for.

And guess what -- in order to make this discovery, YOU are going to have to bring up this conversation topic.  You should not have waited around like a meek, simpering female, and then whine about, "oh he never told me he wasn't looking for marriage."  Well, if it is truly so important to you to have a guy that DOES want to get married, then why didn't YOU ask him?

Isn't this common sense?  If it is a major top priority to you, then it is YOUR job to make sure you get straight answers.  The only way to do that is to be straightforward and honest yourself.

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