Sigh. Okay, I have held my tongue long enough. I have forced myself to be silent, I have held my pen in check.
But this can go on no longer. This has gone on far enough. I grinned like a monkey and staid my pen at the morass of dating filth all over the checkout lanes of grocery stores, on TV, and elsewhere in the media.
Geez, I figured out all this shit way back in high school. Then the media started bombarding humans with all its filth and self-destruction. I chided myself for not being "open-minded" enough to the realities of the dating world or whatever. There has always been a matter-of-fact voice in my mind that lets me know that all the dating crap everywhere is self-inflicted, and I tried to force myself to consider this voice "unrealistic" or "not with the times" or some such rubbish. It is true. Everything in the realm of "dating" is self-inflicted. Whatever broken hearts, cheating on people, misunderstandings that are out there -- people are doing it to their own damn selves.
Geez, I was trying to be nice. I never said a word about the phenomenally stupid, astonishingly idiotic dating mistakes women make. They are not just mistakes; they are out-and-out catastrophes. In truth I had written tons of essays, but I did not publish them. I kept hoping that this would be it, that sluts and whores would stoop no lower, that they would see the error of their ways and would wise up and fix themselves. But that never happened.
The reason I did not publish anything in my blog is that I was nice trying to be nice. I was trying to be liberal, open-minded, non-judgmental, blah blah blah. Enough with this shit.
This pretty much reiterates everything I have beeeennnnn saying for years about why modern-day dating is crap. It is obvious that communication is horrible. In the dating arena is the worst possible place for people to neglect communication. It has become quite self-evident that sexual relationship is the one relationship that absolutely requires=+++ good communication.
Yet the thing I'm seeing is, that non-commitment sxx causes the most misunderstandings of all time. No other settings, it seems, cause as much grief, hurt, anger, betrayal, et cetera et cetera. Not work or business relationships. Not the relationship between doctor and patient. Other personal close relationships such as family, siblings, parent-child bond -- they require communication also, but those are not sexual relationships. Those are family and blood relations.
[[[[[[What I am seeing is that in all of these broken relationships,]]]]]?????
--but also, it is the simple fact that a sexual relationship is an intimate relationship that you chose to get into. You chose to have sex with this person of your own volition. No one made you do it. See, blood family that you were born into was not your choice; you were stuck with whatever hand Jehovah dealt ya. But this sex thing, you decided consciously to do this.
Also one more reason that honesty is paramount in a sexual relationship. In a sexual relationship, the two people involved must be equal to each other. I also figured this out a long time ago. This does not mean they must be identical. But it most certainly **does** mean they must have mutual respect for each other. They must have similar outlooks on commitment and sex. Polygamy does not work -- the only realistic arrangement is one man and one woman. Anything else is not a sustained relationship; it is just playacting.
One more example. women get mad if their
and the
(((I wonder if it is the fact that since those are blood relationships, things will patch over eventually.))))))))
(((They must come from similar socioeconomic backgrounds. I have seen over and over and over again, that if one spouse is from an educated and cultured family, and the other spouse is from grinding poverty, it will not work. Their outlooks on life are too different. Their ages must be similar.
Let's be honest. In a blood-relation family, people are not equal to each other. They are not supposed to be. I know popular psychology loves saying all people are equal, but that is simply a lie, plain and simple. Children are not equal to their parents. Aunts and uncles are not equal to children. Parents love their own children more than they love those aunts and uncles (which are those parents' siblings).
some women might start whining and complaining, oh that's so unfair,
Oh that is so unfair. Why are you pinning all the responsibility and work of communication on women? Why do women have to do all the work of communication? Why do we have to do all the talking? Why can't men communicate? it's not fair that
Look what we have to deal with!!! look what we have to
It's too much work!!!
It's just so haaardd communicating with men.
""Men are stupid. Men are horrible at communication. Men suck at conversation.”
aaaannndd... this surprises you why, exactly?
But this can go on no longer. This has gone on far enough. I grinned like a monkey and staid my pen at the morass of dating filth all over the checkout lanes of grocery stores, on TV, and elsewhere in the media.
Geez, I figured out all this shit way back in high school. Then the media started bombarding humans with all its filth and self-destruction. I chided myself for not being "open-minded" enough to the realities of the dating world or whatever. There has always been a matter-of-fact voice in my mind that lets me know that all the dating crap everywhere is self-inflicted, and I tried to force myself to consider this voice "unrealistic" or "not with the times" or some such rubbish. It is true. Everything in the realm of "dating" is self-inflicted. Whatever broken hearts, cheating on people, misunderstandings that are out there -- people are doing it to their own damn selves.
Geez, I was trying to be nice. I never said a word about the phenomenally stupid, astonishingly idiotic dating mistakes women make. They are not just mistakes; they are out-and-out catastrophes. In truth I had written tons of essays, but I did not publish them. I kept hoping that this would be it, that sluts and whores would stoop no lower, that they would see the error of their ways and would wise up and fix themselves. But that never happened.
The reason I did not publish anything in my blog is that I was nice trying to be nice. I was trying to be liberal, open-minded, non-judgmental, blah blah blah. Enough with this shit.
This pretty much reiterates everything I have beeeennnnn saying for years about why modern-day dating is crap. It is obvious that communication is horrible. In the dating arena is the worst possible place for people to neglect communication. It has become quite self-evident that sexual relationship is the one relationship that absolutely requires=+++ good communication.
Yet the thing I'm seeing is, that non-commitment sxx causes the most misunderstandings of all time. No other settings, it seems, cause as much grief, hurt, anger, betrayal, et cetera et cetera. Not work or business relationships. Not the relationship between doctor and patient. Other personal close relationships such as family, siblings, parent-child bond -- they require communication also, but those are not sexual relationships. Those are family and blood relations.
[[[[[[What I am seeing is that in all of these broken relationships,]]]]]?????
--but also, it is the simple fact that a sexual relationship is an intimate relationship that you chose to get into. You chose to have sex with this person of your own volition. No one made you do it. See, blood family that you were born into was not your choice; you were stuck with whatever hand Jehovah dealt ya. But this sex thing, you decided consciously to do this.
Also one more reason that honesty is paramount in a sexual relationship. In a sexual relationship, the two people involved must be equal to each other. I also figured this out a long time ago. This does not mean they must be identical. But it most certainly **does** mean they must have mutual respect for each other. They must have similar outlooks on commitment and sex. Polygamy does not work -- the only realistic arrangement is one man and one woman. Anything else is not a sustained relationship; it is just playacting.
One more example. women get mad if their
and the
(((I wonder if it is the fact that since those are blood relationships, things will patch over eventually.))))))))
(((They must come from similar socioeconomic backgrounds. I have seen over and over and over again, that if one spouse is from an educated and cultured family, and the other spouse is from grinding poverty, it will not work. Their outlooks on life are too different. Their ages must be similar.
Let's be honest. In a blood-relation family, people are not equal to each other. They are not supposed to be. I know popular psychology loves saying all people are equal, but that is simply a lie, plain and simple. Children are not equal to their parents. Aunts and uncles are not equal to children. Parents love their own children more than they love those aunts and uncles (which are those parents' siblings).
some women might start whining and complaining, oh that's so unfair,
Oh that is so unfair. Why are you pinning all the responsibility and work of communication on women? Why do women have to do all the work of communication? Why do we have to do all the talking? Why can't men communicate? it's not fair that
Look what we have to deal with!!! look what we have to
It's too much work!!!
It's just so haaardd communicating with men.
""Men are stupid. Men are horrible at communication. Men suck at conversation.”
aaaannndd... this surprises you why, exactly?
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