Thursday, July 11, 2002

Social Experiment, Part II

Here is a link to a previous self-esteem building article.
Part I of Men's Self-Confidence Revolution

We are subconsciously teaching men to be ashamed of their bodies.  We must encourage and support positive behavioral patterns.  We must bring about positively-received expression of their sexuality.  We must teach men to be proud of their bodies, to break free from the bounds, from society's chains that dictate what acceptable social behavior should be.

If at any time a glimpse of a man's chest is showing, he feels shy, and he feels compelled to button his shirt, readjust his collar, straighten his tie.  If at any time a man's ankle is showing, he feels obligated to pull his socks all the way up and make sure his pants reach all the way down.  After first making sure it is securely buttoned and the fly is securely fastened of course.

So far men are still only celebrating women's sexuality.  And in tandem they are ignoring their own.  When men talk about a supposed conquest over the weekend, do you actually think he is expressing his sexuality?  Who is truly being sexualized in this scenario?  The man?  No.  The woman.  Absolutely nothing wrong with that, we must encourage women to express their sexuality out in public at any time, at any opportunity, no matter what the social situation.

After all, expression of a personal private delicate matter such as an individual human being's sexuality is of course appropriate and welcome no matter what the social situation and location.  No question about that.

But it is positively devastating and most regrettable that this man is neglecting his own sexuality while he is in the process of acknowledging a woman's sexuality.  He is denying himself.  He is reduced to self-flagellating and he is denying himself access to his whole humanity as a unified being.  There is no good reason for this to continue whatsoever.  There is absolutely no good reason for a man, for any man, to feel that he must deny himself the right to express his sexuality as an independent aspect of his being, independent from any women that might cross his path.  He is starving and weak, and is keeping himself blind and helpless in the process of not acknowledging his own naked male body.

In the process of not expressing his sexuality and physicality, he is denying himself, himself.

There is no good reason for a male to feel he has to, be pressured into thinking he has to, to be forced into denying his right to express his sexual body as a healthy aspect of his whole, in and of itself.

As a society, we have neglected men's needs to express themselves sexually for far too long.  The man is only talking, this is hearsay, and most likely it is while he is still fully clothed.  He is not truly expressing his sexuality.  He is not truly appreciating his own beauty, he is not truly appreciating his own male body, he is not truly reveling in his own glorious naked male body, neither figuratively nor literally.

We are ignoring the fact that men also need to express every aspect of themselves.  Emotionally, psychologically, mentally, intelligence-wise, physically, and very much sexually.

We see how not being able to "look good naked" damages women's self-esteem.  Well, are men not creatures of emotion and psychology too?  Does it not damage their self-esteem to be too reserved and repressed and not being allowed to "look good naked?"  Should they not also get the opportunity to be free and comfortable with their bodies, and to be able to look good naked while out in public?

If we are to live as a free, enlightened, advanced, evolved, civilized society, then this means that all, but ALL, members of society must enjoy equal opportunities to express themselves sexually.

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